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Celebrate your past for a path to the future!
Celebrate your past achievements, own the power of your present life, and create a compelling vision of your future. This is a powerfully transforming course that is also a lot of fun! You will connect on a very deep level with all you have accomplished in the past, then use this newly developed sense of success to eliminate negativity and create ownership of all you are doing in the here and now. You will then use the confidence and strength that these two steps have created to develop a clear, compelling vision of what your future will hold, and I teach several tools for manifesting that future. We'll be using art and music (you don't need to be an artist or a musician!) to connect & connect with your past, present and future. We will have two special guests joining us during week 3 and week 5 who will provide additional tools to aid you in Your Happiness Expedition.
The course begins runs from Thursday, April 12 to Thursday, May 17, from 7-9pm. We'll be in the Awareness Room at The Rock Spa located at 396-B Victoria St. N., Kitchener. SPACE IS LIMITED TO 10 participants, so please register early to avoid disappointment! Cost is $120 per person.
Contact me using the form on the "Contact" page to register.
This is it. Your LIFE. The only one you get as the person you are right now. Some believe it's the only one you get, period.
So, what are you doing with it? Are you owning your life? Really living? Will you reach the end and be extraordinarily happy with your life as you lived it or will you wish you had been more brave, challenged more, reached more, become more?
If you are looking at your life as it stands now and wishing it were different, I have four words for you. IT'S NOT TOO LATE.
It just isn't. We have within us, every moment of every day, the power to change the direction of our lives. To decide what we want and go after it with all we have in us, be it with wild abandon, or precise planning. Every one of us has this power. NO EXCEPTIONS!
If you're not sure how to start, click on that Contact button at the top of this page and fill out the form. I'll send you a list of some ways to start, on the house. Just please, do that one small thing. I'm kinda like the Universe that way, I can give you all sorts of help, but only if you do that one little thing first. Got it?
Looking forward to hearing from you, and wishing you all the best life has to offer,
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A lack of focus is one of the biggest barriers for many people wanting to accomplish a significant goal. With all of the distractions in life today its very easy to become side tracked. Combine all those little distractions with the reality of very busy lives and its not surprising that people become bogged down and don’t accomplish their goals. If you’re ready to change that trend in your own life, keep reading for some great tips on how to keep focused.
Remove distractions. Constantly checking your email, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest or responding to calls and texts will get you nowhere. There is a time for those things but not while you are creating a sacred space for your work. You'll get more done if you allow your mind to get in the groove with some peace and quiet.
Turn off your email, close your web browsers, shut your phone off or forward it to voicemail, and put on headphones if you’re in a noisy or distracting environment. Do this with the understanding that very little is so urgent that it cannot wait while you work for an hour. Disconnecting in this way can be difficult, but being in constant contact is simply a habit that you can change with commitment.
Decide to commit 100% to your goal.100% commitment makes accomplishing your goal much simpler. No question, no waffling, no uncertainty about accomplishing your goal. You are accomplishing that goal, NO MATTER WHAT.
Make sure your goal is really what you want. If you’re even a little unsure about the goal, it becomes harder to be fully committed, and you're more likely to allow distractions to overtake your mind. More often than not, you'll use distractions to create excuses and exceptions to justify your lack of focus.
When you are committed, it is easier to ignore distractions and keep your focus. This is something only you can decide.
Set a time limit. Decide how long you have to complete the portion of the goal you are working on. This is an important element of effective goal setting.
When you decide on a completion date, you'll be more likely to accomplish your goal.
Take breaks. This may sound contradictory, but actually makes a world of difference when you are working within a large block of time. If we work too long at one time, not only do we become physically tired, but our minds tire as well. This makes us more susceptible to distractions and shatters our concentration.
Work intently for an hour and then allow yourself a 10-minute break. When you return from the break, you'll be more focused, your mind will be clearer, and you'll be more likely to work for another hour without losing focus.
Think of your favourite song. Now imagine if that song had no breaks between the notes, no pauses, no variation in the length of the note. How fun, interesting, inspiring, and beautiful would that song be? Life is just like music. We need breaks and variation.
This strategy allows you to get more work done in a shorter time.
Use lists. Lists are wonderful tools that help you accomplish your work quicker and easier. Before beginning, write down everything you need to accomplish and then cross out each task as you complete it.
The process of crossing things off your list can be a great motivator to keep you working without distractions, plus it helps build the momentum to get everything done.
For some people, a “ta-da” list is more effective than crossing things off of a list. When you complete a task, move it to your “ta-da” list.
Check out www.workflowy.com for a great online list-making tool.
Reward yourself! When you complete one of the steps towards your goal, reward yourself. Rewards are not just for the bigger end result. Use rewards to maintain your motivation and focus. They don’t have to be big rewards. Something as simple as your favourite latte, a glass of wine, or a sweet treat can be a great reward for completing one of the steps towards your goal.
Rewards remind you to value yourself and your efforts, and nothing is more important than remembering your worth!
Remember, you're human, too. If you lose focus, let go of annoyance at yourself, take a deep breath, and recommit to your goal. As soon as you can after recommitting, get back to working on your goal. Practice these techniques until they become habit and enjoy your rewards!
As you can see, I've made some changes to the look of this blog, and in the process of making those changes all of my posts had to be reposted. None of the posts prior to this one are new, but the dates make it look like they are. I'd like to develop some consistency in my blogging so I'm aiming to post a new entry here each week. If you'd like to see a post about a particular topic related to my work, please drop me a line using the form on the Contact page. Thank you!
I saw a great video about rhythm with my daughter yesterday. We were watching Sesame Street. Yes, you read that right; Sesame Street.
I came across this video, where a man is playing a steel drum and starts talking about how there is rhythm all around us; in a person's walk, or in the waves. In one segment, he is riding with some children in a carriage, and the horse's hooves are clipping a steady beat on the road. He listens for a moment, then starts to play his steel drum along with the horse's hoof beats. Magic!
The point here is that rhythm is everywhere in life and the more we struggle to control, the less connection we have to the rhythm in the world, in our own lives, and in ourselves.
My daughter came down with a nasty bug on the weekend, and she was feeling pretty crummy yesterday. I've been trying not to get the bug too, but it's a tough go when I'm not getting enough sleep. It's not easy to slow down and change the groove of my life when things like this come up. I keep wanting to try to maintain the same rhythm as always, while my body is hollering at me to change that groove and rest.
Watching, and listening to that video was a great reminder. I'm tired. Everything about me needs rest right now. And that is exactly what I'm going to do. Incidentally, if you want to see the video I'm talking about, click here.
Wishing you all the best life has to offer,
Originally posted Feb 8, 2011
It's not what you know, and contrary to popular belief it's not even who you know. It's USING what you know.
Taking action, and moving forward. Your life is your song. Use what you know to write it in your own key, with your own groove.
Live it LOUD so that others lives are enriched by experiencing it
A little while ago, my aunt sent me the following story in an email message. I like to think that I do all I can to focus on what is most important to me, but every now and then, I realize that I could be doing more. As much as I enjoy that fiction novel I've been reading, I could be doing a little less reading, and a little more of something that will give me a rewarding result in the long term. Like playing my bass more often.
Stories like this one change the way I perceive my activities, helping me shift from simple enjoyment, to that pure satisfaction and joy that comes from doing something that lifts my heart and soul. Don't get me wrong, kicking back and relaxing with a book is great, just not all the time. It comes back to that all important word again; rhythm.
Here is the story. I hope you enjoy it!
Imagine that you had won the following prize in a contest: Each morning your bank would deposit $86,400.00 in your private account for your use.However, this prize has rules, just as any game has certain rules.
The first set of rules would be:
Everything that you didn't spend during each day would be taken away from you. You may not simply transfer money into some other account. You may only spend it. Each morning upon awakening, the bank opens your account with another $86,400.00 for that day.
The second set of rules:
The bank can end the game without warning; at any time it can say, “Its over. The game is over! It can close the account and you will not receive a new one.
What would you personally do?
You would buy anything and everything you wanted, right? Not only for yourself, but for all people you love. Even for people you don't know, because you couldn't possibly spend it all on yourself, right? You would try to spend every cent, and use it all, wouldn't you?
ACTUALLY This GAME is REALITY!
Each of us is in possession of such a magical bank. We just can't seem to see it.
The MAGICAL BANK is TIME!
Each morning we awaken to receive 86,400 seconds as a gift of life, and when we go to sleep at night, any remaining time is NOT credited to us. What we haven't lived up that day is forever lost. Yesterday is forever gone.
Each morning the account is refilled, but the bank can dissolve your account at any time....WITHOUT WARNING.
SO, what will YOU do with your 86,400 seconds?
Those seconds are worth so much more than the same amount in dollars. Think about that, and always think of this:
Enjoy every second of your life, because time races by so much quicker than you think.
So take care of yourself, Be Happy, Love Deeply and Enjoy Life!
Wishing you a wonderfully beautiful day.
Are you working more and more, with no end in sight? Are you buried so deep under a pile of work that you wonder if you'll ever get out? While hard work can be important to your success and financial prosperity, so is living your life in rhythm.
If you're feeling stressed out and overtired, you may feel that a proper work and family rhythm s impossible for you. But nothing could be further from the truth! Creating rhythm in your work and family life is critical for preserving your health and experiencing the peace and happiness you deserve.
Attain the rhythmic life you crave with these simple changes:
• Keep the work at work. Resist the temptation to bring work home with you. If you're facing pressing deadlines or a pile of work that keeps growing, taking work home seems like the easiest way to get it all done. Unfortunately, though, taking work home often means saying no to vital family time.
• Often, the heavy workload is part of the territory. At other times, you can ease your workload by opting out of unnecessary projects or unreasonable demands.
• Try delegating the tasks that can be done by others so you're free to do the most important aspects of your job.
• Other times, poor planning can cause you to spend more time on tasks than is really necessary. This may cause you to get behind and feel the need to bring work home. Take a few minutes in the morning to plan your day effectively, make a to-do list arranged by priority, and then cross off your tasks as you complete them.
• Show your family that you value them by saying no when appropriate, delegating when possible, and taking time to organize your work before you begin. You'll feel less stressed and get more done, too.
• Limit your hours. Staying late at the office is a lot like coming home with work. If possible, commit to reasonable office hours and leave when it's time to clock out. Your family time will support your success at the office because you'll feel less stressed and experience greater productivity in the time you spend at work.
• Go to work early. Instead of staying at the office late and missing family time, consider arriving early if you have to catch up on work. While you only want to do this occasionally, it can be the perfect compromise that promotes rhythm in your life. Arrive home on time for family time, and you work extra hours in the morning when everyone's still asleep.
• Put your family first. Just as you make appointments that support your working career, why not make appointments that prioritize your family and encourage rhythm? Schedule in date nights, play time with the kids, or whatever suits your lifestyle. That way, when the calendar starts to become crowded with work, your family doesn't get crowded out.
Most of your day may be spent at work, but the most rewarding experiences of your life often occur during family time. Use these strategies to create rhythm in your life and experience more of the memories that make life worthwhile. If you make your family a priority, you'll be rewarded with greater productivity at work, a sense of peace, and deeper relationships within your family.
Wishing you all the best life offers,
Ah, the best laid plans.... Amazing how it happens, your day or week is all planned out, then "wham" seemingly out of nowhere, something comes along to sideline your plans. A car repair, a family member or friend needs your help, your small child gets sick...or any number of other events that just weren't in your plans can really do a number on you and your "to do" list.
The impact of these types of events on your "to do" list often can't be helped, but you can do something about how these unplanned for events impact you. You may think that your reaction to these events is out of your control, but in reality, they are completely WITHIN your control. After all, who is controlling your emotions and behaviour, if not you? Certainly not your mechanic, right?
Think for a moment about how you typically react to an unplanned for event. Do you feel stressed or upset, angry or resentful? How about frustrated?
We've all been there. Sometimes these feelings come on very quickly, but it just seems like the reaction is out of your control. Because how these events impact you comes down to how you CHOOSE to deal with them. That's right; its a choice. You can freak out, become angry or resentful, but really, how well does that reaction serve you? You might even feel entitled to react the way that you did. Maybe so, but again, let me ask you, how well does that reaction serve you? Does it help the situation in any way? Make the problem go away? Or does it simply make an already unpleasant situation worse?
I'd like to offer you another option for how you choose to react in these situations. Are you ready? Here it is: acceptance. That's right, acceptance. Acceptance that life will sometimes throw you curves. Sometimes things won't go the way you would like them to. Its going to happen. If you understand this one simple fact life becomes much easier. Learning the habit of accepting the curves life sends you leads to greater peace and calm in your life, along with more of that elusive sense of rhythm many people are searching for. And all of that leads to better health.
You probably don't need any more reasons to start learning to accept these unplanned for events but I'll give you a couple more anyway. First, sometimes the challenges and obstacles that land in your path are there because you need them to be. They might have arrived just in time to help you to grow. Its true! If you start thinking about how much you need to learn to be more patient, just watch and see how many opportunities to be more patient arrive in your life.
Or sometimes what is initially perceived as an obstacle, turns out to be an opportunity. One that is missed because you were too busy feeling stressed, or angry about the obstacle to notice what it could give you. While you're waiting for your car to be repaired you just might meet your next business partner, someone who has a solution to another challenge you've been facing, or you might be able to use that time to handle other tasks that otherwise wouldn't have gotten done. But if you're stressed or angry, how open to these possibilities will you be?
The fact is, there will ALWAYS be things that come up when you're not expecting them. If you could learn to accept these events, adjust your schedule accordingly and keep going without falling into the trap of the negative emotions; how much better could would your life be?